Thursday, September 27, 2012
Well, this summer that milestone was reached. No diapers, no wet beds, and no qualms about going behind any tree, bush, or rock.
So a few weeks later, off we went.
When we parked our car and hit the trail the sun was already beginning to set. Slightly nervous, I knew we’d have to make decent time in climbing just under 1000 ft and hiking a couple miles. Doing it with a 3-year-old threw a major question mark into the whole planning. Thankfully though, on this night, my son was up to the challenge. When we began our hike, he took straight to the trail and embraced the unknown. We walked together, sometimes me ahead and he trailing, sometimes he running along to find a new stick. Every incline that included rocks to scale brought him great joy, and he scampered up them with glee. When he became tired, he’d give me the wide-eyed longing look and beg to be carried, but I’d point at the large pack on my back and tell him it wasn’t possible.
When we finally reached a nice grassy plateau in the mountains with a nearby meandering stream, up went our tent and we huddled inside. We cut sausage and ate baguettes and fruit snacks, we sipped on our water bottles, and we played some card games. I still can’t believe he survived until 9pm for dinner. Adventure can soften hunger pains, I guess.
As darkness fell - it fell fast - the cold came with it. I knew it would be cool a few thousand feet up there, but wasn’t quite prepared for just how cold. The night went well and we both slept soundly in our sleeping bags, but the morning was frigid. And asking a 3-year-old to stay in his sleeping bag at 7am when the sun has already been up for a whole hour was torture! So out of the tent we popped, and the chill smacked us in the face like a cold wet fish from Nineveh (or anywhere, really). We were freezing. And everything from the grass to the tent was wet with dew. I began packing up while my son shivered, but my hands were too cold to finish the job. Fires are outlawed in the park, so that option was out. The mountain peaks blocked direct sunlight and thus we were still in the shade, the cold and wet shade, at 8am.
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
My son started school today. For the past couple years I’ve looked forward to this day. I work mostly out of our home, so free babysitting for 8 hours a day sounds slightly more than wonderful.
And yet, as I watched from our apartment balcony him walking away with my wife, a heaviness fell upon me.
I’m hurting. My little boy has begun school.
I won’t be there to speak into every time he feels hurt, confused, or scared.
I won’t be there to tell him he’s tough.
I won’t even know the first time he feels lost and insecure.
I won’t know the moment he first feels betrayal.
I won’t be there to explain when he sees injustice.
I’ve never wanted to live our lives in such a way that my kids won’t fall down and hurt themselves. I just want to be the first one there to pick them up.
But there’s more to it than that. I know every parent goes through emotion and pain when kids reach milestones, start school, move out, and so forth. I don’t mean to demean any of that, it’s all very real and quite difficult. But we threw another variable in. While my son’s in school, I won’t have a clue what’s going on there. We are living in a foreign land, and he is attending a national school, and I know absolutely nothing about it. I never had anything remotely close to the experiences that he’s about to have. I never had classmates who speak a different heart language than myself. I can’t relate to an urban childhood, a socialized system, a culture of ‘no’, and a knowledge-based education. I don’t even know yet the terms he’ll learn for learning. I definitely won’t know the words he learns from the other kids in a few years...
Isn’t it nice to know that God’s not a father like me? Unable to relate? Not him.
“The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us” (John 1:14).
Maybe God hurt on that day like I do now, probably worse. But in so doing He positioned himself to be able to relate to us. We don’t pray to a God that can pick us up and rub our boo-boos but doesn’t understand our pain. We pray to a God that has walked this earth and experienced these struggles and knows EXACTLY what we’re feeling, thinking, and doubting. God’s not blind to our experiences 8 hours a day. When Jesus came to earth, so too did the Father. And through those experiences, he’s just like the big brother I hope my son will one day be to his baby sister when she’s lost and hurting in school. “I’ve been there, I know what it’s like. Here, let me show you the way forward.”
“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are” (Hebrews 4:15).